Valentine’s Special: Whores Recruited to Satisfy Those With Special Needs

Look, I’ll be honest – I’m sorry, this is dark. Really dark. But that makes it all the more infuriating.

Essentially, the story is that some care homes may have spent a portion of their budgets on procuring ‘sex workers’ for their charges. That’s it. Do you have a problem with that? If you said ‘yes’, you’re an idiot.

If you’re a prostitute, I’m sure the disabled community makes up a very small part of your clientèle; if you’re disabled, it’s up to you what you want or don’t want, but you should be given the chance to make the choice. You – YOU WHO READS THIS AND EVERY OTHER STUPID ARTICLE IN THE PAPER – are neither. It’s none of your business; it’s not your problem; shut up and go away.

The only thing older than prostitution is disability. This happens in every other country – first world, third world – in the world. Only here, in Great Britain, could we make an issue out of it.

‘I want a world where disabled people are valid sexual partners’

Recent reports that a care home procured sex workers for its disabled residents and new film The Sessions have put disability and sex in the spotlight. But is the focus on prostitution helpful?

kwenchin, 13 February 2013 12:58am

Prostitution should not be encouraged. These women lead sad lives and support the drugs industry. The govt. would to paying to support the drugs industry and trafficing of east european sex slaves.

Right. Let’s choke the drugs industry by cutting out hookers.

iruka, 13 February 2013 8:53am

This east European ‘sex slaves’ myth is pure propaganda.

I don’t have any problem at all with sexual surrogacy. In some ways it’s pretty much the opposite of men paying money for the right to a half hour of morally solipsistic play with someone else’s body…reliving the tent-pitching delusion that they’re actually entitled to use other people purely as ends, and that that their ability to pay is the basis of that right.

I lost you at ‘solipsistic’ you terrible bore. Seriously – fuck you and whatever tent-pitching delusion you may have.

mikozero, 13 February 2013 12:22pm

how about we just give disabled people their money to live on, accept that at that point it’s actually theirs, and keep our damn moralising and holier than thou attitude out of other peoples business ?

Yes!

nellief, 13 February 2013 2:24pm

– Paying for sex is hardly “intimacy” – something that I hope all people with disabilities have in their life. The emphasis on sex is just sad.

Nobody, except you and the hundreds of mouth-foaming commentors, is mistaking intimacy with sex. This doesn’t happen in real life – why should you be so blind to it? Perhaps if you were disabled you might understand a little better.

ChristopherHervet, 13 February 2013 3:58pm

@silentstar101 – A long time ago or maybe once upon a time – the Samaritans were plagued by hundreds of calls from men seeking sexual gratification via the phone. This was thought to prevent the actively suicidal from getting through so the Brenda system was established.

Men needing that kind of satisfaction were encouraged to ask for “Brenda” who was a woman trained to try and engage with them and to talk about their underlying problems.

The outcome was that in some cases the woman volunteer would speak to the man while he endeavoured to come. A wel- to-do elderly BBC employee of my acquaintance regularly undertook this duty long after the Brenda system was scrapped.

I think the point I’m making in a round about way is that maybe money doesn’t need to change hands. It could be a voluntary service like any other with volunteers receiving appropriate CRB checks and training in sex therapy?

Brilliant. Re-proud to be British.

RA1966,13 February 2013 7:40am

@TrueBrit1066 – Everyone has the right to enjoy sex in some way,

do you agree that the NHS should provide free viagra for all? Patients with erectile dysfunction have a problem that prevents them enjoying sex.

000a000, 12 February 2013 11:03pm

Slightly uneasy about this: what’s the difference between a businessman who’s too busy to bother with seduction using a prostitute, someone who’s too lazy or drunk, and someone who’s too disabled?

Haneen1,12 February 2013 11:07pm

@000a000 – difference is that in the former two cases it involves a “subjective moral fault”, whereas disability is not a moral failing. They can’t help it, they didn’t choose to be disabled, nor did they do anything bad which made them disabled. Whatever you may feel about the sex service thing, it is wrong to put disabled people into the same category as greedy capitalists and the lumpen or borderline criminal elements.

Meh. You’ve over-thought this, so fuck you.

MoneyMustGo, 12 February 2013 11:43p

It’s sad that some people never get to have sex. Men like to romanticise prostitution, but it’s a f….ing terrible thing. If I had a disabled son, who was desperate for sex, I’d be telling him that it’s so wrong to buy a woman.

Really? If it was pay for it or never have it?

RA1966, 13 February 2013 7:45am

@lostalex77 – Why is the vagina or penis considered such a SACRED body part? it’s just another body part

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Incorrect. Your face is not the same as your vagina. My toe is not the same as my penis.

‘my toe is not the same as my penis’ – you are the bigger wanker. i hope you suffer.

triunfun, 12 February 2013 11:51pm

I dont give a damn whether is legal or not, as long both parts have an agreement.

You can’t argue with that.

TheRightSort, 13 February 2013 12:46am

I’m sure there’s a pretty penny to be made out there to make ‘niche porn’? Perhaps that could fund this er… enterprise?

Not cool.

Dryhtscipe, 13 February 2013 10:24am

@lostalex77 – No, some people are advocating that the government pay for it.

Taxpayers don’t pay for anything but taxes.

It ceased being your money when it left your account… just as it does when you buy a car. You don’t get a say in whether the car salesman hires a prostitute either.

This is too stupid for comment.

LittleLetters,13 February 2013 6:26am

@kwenchin – Must be cosy up there, surveying the perfect world. Talk to a 65 year old single mother, looking after her 18 stone 40 year old son. He has a mental age of about 2, and hasn’t learnt how to masturbate. Once a month a sex worker provides him with hand relief and his mother with a calm household for a while. Whilst this is an imagined scenario, it’s one that exists in similar forms, far more often than anyone would like. Disability is not merely physical, and the relief offered by sex workers is not merely for the client.

That’s pretty grim, but it’s reality – READ IT

bolobo, 13 February 2013 2:10am

As a long-time inadvertant-celibate what I ache for is to touch my forehead against the forehead of someone who loves me and I can’t buy that. Using a sex worker would only serve to emphasise the comparative triviality of my loins.

“What disabled people need is full and equal rights. An inclusive society, which doesn’t create barriers.”

I’m not against anybody employing a sex worker but feel that it’s just a more complicated form of masturbation rather than sex.
It’s not new in the film world. 1998’s The Theory of Flight, starring Helena Bonham Carter as a woman with motor neurone disease, was excellent in it’s exploration of the subject.

I ache to say: Fuck you.